there’s something I have to tell you
I’ve been doing this blog for almost a year now . . .
and I still haven’t told our whole story.
If I’m ever going to get it all out there, I’m going to have to be more consistent.
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The writer Anne Lamott tweeted this the other day:
You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories.
If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should’ve behaved better.
So, I’ve been thinking about it . . .
And I think I might be able to get away with that in twenty years.
Because I think that there are people who behaved badly in our story who might take offense . . . or worse . . .
But I need to tell you that there is a better way to deal with prescription drug addiction than what we experienced.
And I think that’s really what has to be told in our story.
Because the more I read about prescription drug addiction, the more I believe that it’s a silent epidemic creeping into our church pews.
And I am convinced that the Church is completely ignorant about the danger and commonality of prescription drug addiction. And completely unprepared to deal with it.
If I never get the chance to write another word on this blog, I have to tell you some things. You just need to know.
I was listening to a popular Christian counseling show on the radio a month or so ago and heard the counselor (a very, very well-known author) actually say that anti-anxiety medications were NOT addictive.
I nearly crashed my car.
Where would he get that kind of mis-information?
It’s taking forever for the medical world to catch up with classifying drugs.
Warnings have just been sounded about Tramadol, the drug Dave was addicted to.
Only the ones that are flat-out addictive: morphine, etc — drugs most of my readers aren’t likely to have laying around the house — are strictly monitored. Most of the time, when people refer to addictive drugs, they mean these.
Meth and heroin are Schedule I drugs — illegal drugs, with no medical purpose.
Aderall and Ritalin are Schedule II drugs, right alongside Morphine and Oxycontin. Highly addictive drugs, referred to as controlled substances.
Some of the most commonly prescribed drugs on the market are NOT controlled substances, but have the potential to be addictive:
Vicodin — the number one prescribed drug in America — 131.2 million prescriptions in 2010.
An estimated 7 million Americans abuse pharmaceutical drugs. Prescription drugs account for about 75 percent of all drug-related U.S. overdose deaths, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. And three of every four deaths from pills involve opioid pain relievers including oxycodone. — Reuters
We are the most medicated country in the world.
There has been a lot of talk in the news lately about Shutting down pharmacies that made the naughty list with NIDA, and drug take back campaigns to get unused prescriptions out of homes.
“Most of us can’t go to our grandmother’s house and find cocaine, marijuana or methamphetamine, but we can find prescription painkillers.” Gil Kerlikowske
But it was a series of legitimate prescriptions that set Dave on the path of addiction.
What about doctors who prescribe and over prescribe?
What about pharmaceutical companies making a killing off our pains?
Is it necessary to prescribe Vicodin to a teenager with a cough?
Anti-anxiety medication — without any real evaluation –to someone who really just needs counseling?
Narcotics to someone who broke a finger? (Need more convincing? Read this.)
I’ve personally experienced this. This jump to prescribe after a five-minute conversation.
And one of these days, I’m going to lose it Erin Brokovich style.
Maybe I already have.
How many times have I had to write “prescription drug addiction” on the children’s family medical history before someone actually refers to that information? Do I have to tattoo it on their foreheads?
DO NOT make the mistake of thinking you and yours could never get addicted to prescription drugs.
**A WORD OF WARNING: If you or anyone you are concerned about is taking a potentially addictive drug, don’t go cold turkey.
You could die. You could become suicidal.
Get medical help before ditching your legitimately prescribed pills.
I cannot emphasize this enough.
If you don’t believe me, read the fine print on the insert that comes with your medication.
If that doesn’t tell you these drugs are dangerous, I don’t know what would.
Make your voice heard until you find someone who cares.
Dump your doctor for one who will really test you and your kids before prescribing potentially addictive drugs.
And for goodness sake, check your work and medical benefits.
We found out after Dave was asked to resign that his Christian employer’s benefits included 30 days of leave for rehab.
No one told us.
And there I go.
But these things have to be said.
No matter how sorry anyone is. No matter how much hindsight anyone has now.
You need to know.
We were good people. Seriously. If I told you how good, you would think I was lying.
Let’s just say this: great kids, leaders in high school — at school and at church, leaders in college, leaders in church, leaders in ministry. Not Party-ers. Not drinkers. And chaste. (Yep. There, I said it. Mock away or shake your head in disbelief.)
And yet. And YET. Prescription drug addiction nearly destroyed us.
Take a good, hard look.
This is what’s coming.
Christians have got to be ready
They weren’t ready for us.
And some of them should have behaved better.