17 things I say to my kids that I really should say to myself
If anyone anywhere very desperately needed to take her own advice, it would be me.
Things I say to my kids hourly, daily, and every so often:
1. You need to be drinking water ALL the time!
2. Get off the internet and do something productive.
3. Eat some protein.
4. What you really need to do is get ready the night before.
5. Put that back where you got it.
6. Be diligent.
7. Make good choices.
8. Stop saying negative things about yourself, you’re going to end up with a self-fulfilling prophecy.
9. You can do this.
10. You don’t have to be the best. Just do your best and let it be what it is.
I talk a good game. Don’t you wish you were one of my kids?
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It’s amazing how when you ask God to open up your eyes to where you’re missing the mark, He shows you.
Sometimes the answer comes like a punch in the gut. Sometimes, it’s an echo. Your own words coming back to you.
You can do this, I hear myself say . . .
12. Do your best with what you have.
13. God gave you a gift — use it.
14. Quit comparing.
15. Don’t be so afraid of rejection.
16. Keep at it and don’t quit.
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There are seasons . . .
. . . you stick to it and see change. You master the piece through practice. You labor over tedious assignments to get an A. You dribble incessantly in every spare minute and make the team.
And then there are seasons . . .
When you do all the things. Practically killing yourself to get there. And the promotion doesn’t happen. The part goes to someone else. The ref makes bad calls and you are defeated.
There are people — I used to be one of them — who thrive in that spot. Don’t tell me I can’t because it will only make me work harder.
But as I dispense these true true phrases to my kids, I realize a thing about myself. Because I’ve seen it not happen like it should too many times. Cynical. I am cynical.
Because there are places where men’s voices are heard over women’s. Where tall dancers are cast and short ones aren’t. Where popularity wins over goodness. Where bankruptcy gets a pass and paying off debt takes decades. Where good suffers and evil is rewarded.
Yes, bad happens. Yes, the bad guys sometimes win. Yes, it isn’t fair.
But it doesn’t mean you’re a loser, or that you don’t have talent, or that you’re not worth listening to. Not in any way. And maybe that’s the most important thing I really should say to myself:
17. Tell yourself the truth. Over and over. Whenever lies begin to fill your head, tell them the Truth.
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P.S. That’s my mom pep talk. I”ll leave the rest to this guy . . .
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